Counseling & Tools for Your Marriage and Family
With Mark Spurlock, LMFT 45318, by secure video across California.
Something has been wrong for a while and you have been carrying it alone. It is showing up at home now, in your temper, your sleep, or the distance between you and the people you love.
Many major insurance plans accepted, and a sliding fee scale for private pay.
For California adults 18 and older. Sessions are by video. I am practical and direct.
For men: read Therapy for Men.
ADHD often looks like missed deadlines, half-finished tasks, and a growing pile of “I’ll do it later.” Shame shows up when systems keep failing, even when you care a lot.
In session we map what a real week looks like, then build tools you can use when focus drops. We work on follow-through, self-talk, and the stories that form when you have been called lazy.
The work is practical and paced. We stay with one steady line instead of a pile of new systems that collapse by Friday.
Anger is often the part other people see. Under it there is usually stress, shame, or feeling unheard. In sessions we map what sets it off, practice catching it early, and build ways to say hard things without the blowup. The goal is a calmer home and a clearer head at work.
Low energy and low mood can make even small tasks feel heavy. You may pull away from people, sleep too much or too little, and lose interest in things that used to matter.
We look at the load you are carrying and pick one small next step. The work is steady: the body, thought patterns, and the beliefs that keep you stuck.
There is no rush to “feel better.” We stay with what is true today and take the next honest step.
Anxiety can show up as racing thoughts, a tight chest, or panic that seems to come out of nowhere. The body goes first. Then the mind tries to explain the fear.
We start by calming the body, then we look at the thinking that feeds the loop. You learn tools you can use between sessions when the wave hits.
The aim is a calmer nervous system and a clearer way to talk back to fear — not a promise that panic never returns.
Anger and resentment often sit on top of an older wound. We trace the reaction back to what it is protecting.
The work is careful and paced. We do not rush the story. Healing work means naming what happened, how it still shows up, and practicing new responses when the old alarm goes off.
You set the pace. I stay practical and direct, and the room stays safe enough to tell the truth.
Most people who want help with drinking or drug use are not at rock bottom. They are still working and still showing up, but something has started to bother them.
We start with an honest conversation about what it does for you and what it is costing you. Then we set goals you choose. No lecture, and no label you have to accept on day one.
I use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and my own Emotional Mapping method. Emotional Mapping traces anger and resentment to the wound underneath.
Christian Counseling is available.
I work with adults on anxiety, panic attacks, depression, ADHD, anger, trauma, and addiction.
Yes. Sessions are by secure video for adults anywhere in California.
Yes. Anger work is one of my specialties, for adults who want to stay in control and protect their relationships and work.
Use the booking link on this page to choose a time.
Sessions are 53 to 60 minutes by video. Licensed since 2008. Full fee: 150 dollars per session. No insurance? See private pay.
Insurance: many major plans are accepted. The booking link checks your plan before your first session. See how it works with your plan: Kaiser Southern California, TRICARE, Sutter Health, MHN, Sharp, Aetna, or Blue Shield of California.
A sliding fee scale is available. The sliding fee scale can be discussed after your first session, or write to info@marriageandfamily.com. Private-pay clients receive a written Good Faith Estimate before the first session.
If you are in crisis, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or call 911.
Licensed by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences · LMFT 45318
